Six years after her son died someone knocked on her door and said mom it’s me for a mother the most terrible experience is losing a kid the most important thing in a mother’s life is that person who was formed within her for nine months and to whom she spent all of her hours of the day necessary for her to grow up healthy and strong and losing him from one moment to the next causes unexplainable sorrow
Creating a gap in both her life and her emotions dear friends the tale i wanted to share with you today is about amanda a mother who lost her child at a young age despite the fact that she didn’t have her parents backing she had inspired her son with enormous zeal she put in long hours as a waitress in order to be able to welcome her child into a welcoming setting the labor was difficult when the time
Came to give birth so amanda was hurried to the hospital where physicians were able to save her and her baby who was delivered with a low birth weight due to the short time he had spent inside his mother’s womb after all this amanda was finally able to see her baby the same one who had come in the care room surrounded by equipment and observed by physicians when she saw him so alone and helpless the mother’s heart tightened because she
Wanted to protect him from all bad and always be it by his side however due to the circumstances this was not possible amanda was finally able to take little david home after many sleepless nights and anxiety the minutes ticked away as a result amanda began to notice that her son was not developing in the same way as her friend’s children he was after all a lot smaller and more delicate he got sick from everything and they had to go to
The hospital all the time amanda had to quit her job as a waitress and devote herself entirely to her child with the financial assistance of his father who was not present in their life and had only consented to assist them financially little david grew raised amid doctors and nurses after his mother realized how fragile her son was he had been diagnosed with a rare condition that prevented him from fully developing
As a result of his immune system’s failure he was susceptible to all infections as his body lacked the required protections on good days his mother perched on the edge of his bed pleading with heaven for a miracle for his tiny boy who used to make everyone smile he was fantastic and she is the best company she didn’t know what she’d do if he abandoned her and left her alone she had forgotten everything around her after having it
Because she had no time for anyone but her child doctors had not given her much hope as children with this illness seldom lived to be more than three or four years amanda did everything she could to make david’s third birthday a success in all that time he had only requested for one thing from her a small bear that he had admired since he saw it on television she tried everything she could to get it but she couldn’t locate it any place
When she went to buy it she returned to the hospital dissatisfied with a small cake and tears in her eyes throwing her son a good birthday from her hugging him tightly she kissed him on the forehead oblivious to the fact that this would be her final pleasant day with him little david fought for his life for a long time but it wasn’t until a week after his third birthday that his little eyes stared at his mother for the final
Time and he murmured are you listening mommy while clutching him to her bosom are you paying attention to my heart this is yours to keep never ever ever mommy i adore you amanda overheard her small child say farewell to her in the most delicate and terrible way between sobbing she remained by his side till the last beat of his heart ceased to sound
Little david gradually slipped into a deep sleep as a result of this after that the doctor spoke with the bereaved mother who had just lost the most precious child in her life they did however have a very crucial question for her to answer her small kid on the other hand could have saved the lives of three other children who were battling in the same area at the time amanda glanced at her young boy and
Remembered the last words so she nodded and gave his okay to that doctor so that those three tiny ones may have the chance that her son did not and she could keep her promise to little david she was not going to let his heart stop beating years passed and amanda traveled the globe in search of a way to survive after all she had been utterly alone since her son’s death the young woman concentrated on her work and realized
That she couldn’t reconstruct her life without her child she yearned for him to be close to her at night so she could have a good night’s sleep in her dreams he appeared to her and hugged her just as he had the day before when she heard his heartbeat amanda went on a walk in the nearby park one morning sat on a bench and observed the games that the toddler enjoyed so much it was there that she felt a surge of
Energy coursing through her entire body suddenly her gaze was drawn to a young child playing in the park and as if he too had felt the same way she turned her gazes collided for a brief moment but amanda felt odd nonetheless she lingered for a long time observing the scene until it became dark amanda resolved to return to the park anytime she could after that weird incident that’s how she ran across the same small boy again one day who grinned
When he saw her she yearned for the connection she had with him she was rendered speechless as the boy approached her and smiled as he placed himself before her my name is gustavo and i want to introduce myself how do you feel about this park amanda didn’t know how to react to that small boy so she began conversing with him and savoring the moment when for the first time in many years she was pain
Free when the small kid eventually said his goodbyes he gave her a great hug and smiled as he removed something from her backpack and handed it to him while stretching her arm you appear to be depressed i hand it over to you look so that you’ll never feel lonely she took the gift from that little kid with shaky hands which was the same bear
That her little one had requested so much for his last birthday and that she had been unable to give him through tears she smiled and embraced the bear in her arms she began to dream in a strange way when she heard the sound that rendered it entirely paralyzed she brought it to her ear because she began to hear his beating the same heartbeat that she had heard in her nightmares over and over again that of her son the tiny child grinned and
Told her the sound was his heart the same one that had saved his life when he was much smaller he proudly displayed the sign of his recovery amanda was taken aback by the small kid who grinned and told her how he had been saved by the heart of a little boy named david who had given it to him in order for him to live amanda cried uncontrollably for the first time in her life the destination was not ideal because she had already
Seen that small child in her way allowing her to hear her little david over and over amanda realized that this was a signal from her small kid indicating that she could finally break the cycle and move on she kissed that little child on the forehead to say goodbye and he ran and leaped away from her leaving her with that small bear in her palm the loss of a child is one of the most devastating experiences a person can
Have while childhood death isn’t common in the united states about ten thousand children aged one to fourteen died in 2018 the terrifying threat of it looms large while the data are consoling they nonetheless show how dreaded terrible and stigmatized this one type of failure is the death of a kid is regarded the single worst stressor a parent may go
Through says deborah carr chair of boston university’s sociology department parents and grandparents in particular are concerned about their children’s well-being as a result having a kid is even more difficult than losing a loved one they’re all missing out on the years of hope they had hoped for parents grieving the death of an infant may experience typical grief reactions such as a range of psychological biological and social implications but they may
Also encounter a variety of unique challenges the trauma is frequently more severe and letting go of feelings and hopes is more difficult as a result the grieving process takes longer and the chance of permanent or near permanent harm increases dramatically when a child dies the parent and family are confronted with a variety of unique and ongoing challenges everyday
Inquiries like how many children do you have will create a great deal of distress says fiona mccollum a lecturer at the university of queensland some people appear to be able to deal with their grief others are looking for something meaningful to do with their life losing an infant can induce physical symptoms such as stomach pains muscular cramps migraines and even irritable bowel syndrome as can any major grief
Reactions in a handful of studies unresolved sadness has been related to immunological deficiencies tumors and long-term genetic abnormalities at the molecular level the broken heart syndrome is a condition that presents eerily similar to a textbook heart attack and is frequently encountered in parents who have recently experienced the death of a child symptoms according to fueler’s earlier published work on the subject include
Crushing chest pressure st segment elevation on electrocardiography and increased cardiac enzyme markers on laboratory results in response to emotional or physical stress the body’s natural response is to release catecholamines often known as stress hormones which temporarily paralyze the heart’s electrical activity chronic stress has been associated to the death of brain cells and long-term
Exposure to the stress hormone cortisol has also been connected to the death of brain cells in animal studies in a cruel twist of neurobiology brain areas linked in the generation of grief such as the posterior cingulate cortex the frontal cortex and the cerebellum are also involved in the regulation of eating and sleep patterns the reason why grieving parents endure eating and sleeping issues after a catastrophe may be explained by this
There has been a great deal of research done on the long-term health consequences of elevated levels of chronic stress salts continues this is at the top of the list when it comes to terrible life experiences according to the author dear friends thank you for joining us once more in another narrative we appreciate your support please accept my heartfelt goodbye and see you next time.