Children abandoned by their parents from birth to three years old live in children’s hospitals until they’re placed into foster families family type orphanages boarding schools families of guardians adoptive parents or return to a biological family but first their home becomes a hospital the hospital even a very good one is not intended for life but for treatment the future fate of such children is
Dealt with by the social services of the city and the district legal documents are drawn up that determine the status of the child this process can drag on for a long time the development of a person’s personality occurs in stages up to two years the child is entirely dependent on the care of adults and attitudes the quality of which forms the future of a small personality his perception of the world around him and
His attitude towards people if the baby’s caressed held in arms told tales sung he forms trust in people a gradual awareness of himself as accepted protected loved a sense of belonging to people family is formed the foundations of a holistic harmonious personality are laid i am someone’s i am needed i am loved emotional needs are met not just physical ones if up to two years the child feels a
Lack of care neglect or cruelty such kids experience fear distrust danger insecurity jealousy suffer from dissatisfaction and loneliness this is how an outcast personality is formed in the future these are teenagers with destructive behavior the model of their relationships with people and the world around them is simple
Once they abandon me now i neglect everything and everyone the best defense is offense all this begins at the subconscious level and turns into external manifestations aggression anger violence or vice versa apathy persistent depression in adulthood they’ll have problems in relationships low self-esteem inability to love the bitter harvest of what was once sown
Being born with a birth defect is one thing however being rejected by one’s mother due to those birth defects is an entirely different issue altogether that’s exactly what happened to gabe when he was a child he had only been alive for a few days when he lost everything when he was only two years old his mother abandoned him in an orphanage in brazil where he’s been ever since she was upset when she saw him and
Decided to abandon him as a result of her disappointment he’d been lying on his bed all day alone and depressed as a result of gabe’s medical condition his chances of getting adopted were extremely limited one mother on the other hand was about to change everything gabe was born without arms or legs in brazil 19 years ago and he’s still alive after only a few minutes of examination
The doctors determined that the boy had hand heart syndrome an extremely rare condition marked by underdevelopment of the limbs mouth and jaw gabe’s condition was unique in that none of his limbs developed it’s believed that han heart syndrome is an extremely unusual congenital deformity with no known ideology according to the national organization for rare diseases nord as a result gabe was abandoned at the
Hospital by his biological mother who had no desire for him gabe’s future didn’t appear to be promising he was confined to his bed and it appeared that fate wanted him to live a life of loneliness because he didn’t resemble any of the other children the odds of his being adopted were extremely slim however when shopping at the supermarket in the united states janelle adams came upon a photograph of gabe and decided
She wanted to assist him even though many individuals who saw the picture shared her feelings janelle was unable to get the image of the toddler out of her head for several days after seeing it janelle had an instinctive feeling that she wanted to provide a home for this child a new child was not an easy decision for janelle and her husband who live in ohio the couple already had 13 children so
Adding another was not an easy decision when janelle admitted that she and her husband had their concerns she couldn’t stop thinking about the sweet little boy with no family and no arms or legs who was so far away from home i couldn’t stop thinking about this sweet little boy without a family who has no arms or legs who was so far away from us she said chanel on the other hand was able to track out the orphanage home where gabe
Was staying and began the adoption process the process was extremely time consuming but once they were finished with all the paperwork janelle and her husband ron were finally able to fly out and pick up their newly adopted son it was love at first sight for both of them gabe came to live with the family when he was a toddler and he’s only grown and developed since then
Despite the fact that gabe began using a wheelchair at an early age his parents were adamant that their kid would be as self-sufficient as possible despite his impairments gabe was able to do nearly everything that other children his age could do when he was 12. he was capable of dressing himself walking eating and swimming on his own and he was even able to climb the stairwell on his own without the assistance of others
I’m capable of doing that and i do it with a smile gabe asserted while at school gabe attempted to be admitted into the dancing group as a means of meeting new people and discovered that he could make excellent use of his limbless body to break dance brilliantly once gabe had completed his secondary education and demonstrated his independence he moved out of his parents home and pursued a career as a motivational speaker
The child’s parents wished for him to be self-sufficient and not to be reliant on others for the rest of his adult life our goal has always been to give gabe the opportunity to make his own decisions and we realized that would only be possible if he was self-sufficient gabe’s father ron explained however it has not always been so straightforward while gabe’s siblings enjoyed school in
A more conventional manner with parties sports teams and dating school for gabe was a tough everyday experience characterized by bullying and nagging i was in an art class one day when the teacher requested us to critique the work of the individual sitting next to us it was a challenging assignment so one of the children said to me it appears like god made a mistake with you when i returned home that day i was in complete despair i couldn’t seem to
Shake it from my head gabe shared his thoughts it was only after gabe was adopted by the adams family that he realized they were actually saving him from a life of loneliness in a hospital bed they quickly discovered however the gabe was the one who had saved them he educated them on the importance of what actually matters in life and he instilled in them the importance of working harder and never giving up
I used to despise my parents for making me do all of this hard labor but now i look at them and thank them for encouraging me to be self-sufficient and become the person they knew i was capable of being gabe said gabe was treated as though he were a member of the family from his outset by janelle and ron as a youngster grows in understanding himself his ability to function independently increases
Gabe’s competed in dance competitions since being a member of the school’s dance team where he’s placed second and even appeared as a guest on a television program gabe’s confidence as a dancer developed and he began a career as a motivational speaker as his dancing skills improved i’ve been speaking for about four years and it’s been pretty amazing with all the places i’ve gotten to see and all the amazing people i’ve gotten to know
And hear their stories and learn about how i can help them he said this ability need not be an obstacle to success stephen hawking wrote in the first ever world disability report back in 2011 as one of the most influential scientists of modern times the wheelchair-bound physicist is certainly proof of that so why then are public attitudes so far from the reality almost 40 percent of
Respondents in a survey in britain said that disabled people aren’t as productive as others in the same survey a quarter of disabled people said people expected less of them because of their disability it’s these sort of attitudes rather than any mental or physical impairment that creates barriers for people with disabilities as these leaders from around the world of sports culture and business show it’s
About time we change those outdated beliefs gabe is a true warrior who distributes love to everyone he comes into contact with including himself this incredible young man has grown into a major source of inspiration for everyone you’re encouraged to tell your friends about gabe’s experience if you’ve been inspired by his winning approach thanks for reading.