It’s not easy to cope after a loved one dies. You’ll mourn and grieve. Mourning is the natural process you go through or to accept a major loss. Grief is not as linear of a process as we like to believe it is. People can experience a loss that presents itself differently in different seasons.
New losses accompany each new phase of life. Though they’re mourning the same loss, they mourn it in an unfamiliar way. It may have sneaked up on them when they were least expecting it and brought with it a fresh grief triggered by a scent or a memory or a song. That sounds ridiculous, but it’s one of the truths of grieving. Each person grieves in his or her own way and in his or her own time.
There’s no timetable, no median or mean. No average. Grief is probably one of the most personal things there is. It can be very strong. Death or loss of someone, especially if they’re a big character in your life, is a huge impact and can bring up very strong emotions.
It’s easy to see how an emotion being very strong can make it hard to process. It keeps coming back when we lose someone we’re used to having in our life. There are all these times and places where we would normally see them and spend time with them, and every one of them is now a reminder that the person is not there. We need to grieve them in every situation as it comes up, and generally more than once as well. The main thing we’re not well prepared for handling grief.
It’s generally considered acceptable to cry at a funeral, though. Even there you’ll find some people who are embarrassed and find themselves suppressing their tears even when they want to let them out. It’s also considered acceptable, even perhaps expectation, that people will talk about their deep emotional connection with the deceased person at the funeral.
But we are given almost no opportunity to develop any experience in any of this or any other situation, because it’s an awkward and uncomfortable place to go to outside of these ritual settings. I suspect this is even more the case for men than it is for women, though that may be changing in both camps.
Processing grief requires much more than a one off outpouring of emotions at the funeral event. It’s a long process and comes mainly down to acceptance of the truth of your emotional experience. At every moment, emotions will come up that seem completely out of place, but they’re real and fine, and it’s important to accept that they’ve come up. Sometimes emotions will take over us unexpectedly, and we’ll be unable to do the normal things in our lives that we expect of ourselves. That’s just something to accept and work around.
It’s a confusing emotion, too, because it’s not clear when it’s over. We never return to who we used to be before the loss so we can find ourselves thinking we’re still stuck in grief. We often feel guilty about returning to joy and happiness or seeking to find someone else to fill some of the roles that the past person used to play in our lives. But these are normal and necessary things. The most shocking moment for any mother to see her daughter before funeral.
It just lasts goodbye for some persons, however, in this case, something terrible happened. Checking yourself into the hospital is nerve racking enough. What happened to Gladys Rodriguez de Darte, however, was straight out of a nightmare. Her husband has filed a complaint against Dr. Vera, alleging he didn’t even try to revive his wife before declaring her dad.
Gladys Rodriguez Du Tarte was smart to rush to the hospital after sensing an unnerving spike in blood pressure. After all, the 46 year old suffers from ovarian cancer. In a macabre turn of events, however, she later woke up in a body bag headed for the funeral home after being declared dead. For the undertakers working a seemingly routine job, the body bag springing back to life was likely the scare of a lifetime. According to the New York Post.
The dwarf was concerned about her heart rate when she visited San Fernando Clinic in Colonel Oviedo, Paraguay. The mothers spent 2 hours being treated by a physician, Dr. Hareberto Vera, who made the misdiagnosis of his career. The bizarre series of events took a rather grave turn when Dr. Vera handed the worried husband and daughter their mother’s death certificate.
De Duarte was concerned about a spike in blood pressure when she visited the San Fernando Clinic. The dwarf was admitted to the hospital at 09:30 a.m. By 11:20 A.m.. She was officially declared dead, according to Metro. The process of notifying her grieving family was not only an unnecessary and egregious mistake, but handled wholly unprofessionally.
He assumed she was dead and handed her naked to me like an animal with her death certificate, said husband Maximino Duarte Ferreira. He didn’t even revive her, Paraguayan police said. The unconscious patient was then transported to a local funeral home, where it finally became clear that Dr. Vera’s diagnosis was dead wrong. To make matters even stranger, the funeral home she was taken to was oddly named Duertehihos or Dwarf and Sons.
It was here that staffers finally realized the supposed cadaver was actually a living, breathing woman as the body bag began to move. We trusted him, that’s why we went there, said dwarf Fiera of Doctor Vera. But they disconnected her and passed her off to the funeral home. The dwarf has since been taken to a medical facility of Paraguay’s social welfare Institute, according to ABC Color. The resurrected patient is currently under observation and in delicate but stable condition.
As for the enraged husband’s complaint, Dr. Varys colleagues claimed it was unfounded. He tried to revive her, but it was unsuccessful, said fellow physician Dr. Catalina Fabio, adding that Dr. Vera had been unable to locate the patient’s pulse.
While admitting that an accredited physician had trouble finding a patient’s pulse is a rather odd excuse, Dr. Fabio explained that more nuanced issues may have played a part. Even Alexander the Great might have been buried alive after all. She speculated that catalepsy, a condition in which muscles become rigid and a lack of response to outside stimuli takes hold, was the true culprit of this affair. Ultimately, her distraught husband was forged ahead and filed an official complaint against Dr.
Vera. While it’s claimed that the medics intentionally pronounced his wife dead because they no longer wanted to treat her has yet to be proven. It’s certainly a natural emotional response to such a traumatizing event. The old woman felt the same with her young daughter that back to live again in her own funeral. A young woman who was declared dead in front of her grieving mother on Sunday morning is actually still alive in a bizarre case that shocked funeral home workers and outraged the victim’s family in Detroit.
The 20 year old woman initially went into cardiac arrest on Sunday morning at her mother’s house in Detroit, officials say. Paramedics showed up at the scene and spent 30 minutes trying to revive her, according to the Southfield Fire Department. The woman was pronounced dead at the scene, although paramedics say a doctor at a nearby hospital told them to make the call. They said ma’am, she’s gone, the victim’s mother told TV station WDIV TV on Monday. She said she asked them if they were sure, and they said yes, ma’am.
Given medical readings and the condition of the patient, it was determined at the time that she did not have signs of life, the Southfield Fire Department said in a statement. The Oakland County Medical Examiner’s Office was contacted and given the medical data, the Department said the patient was again determined to expire, and the body was released directly to the family to make arrangements with a funeral home of their choosing. Staff at the James H. Cole Funeral Home were examining the victim when they realized that she was still breathing. Then they called her mom.
She’s breathing, she’s alive, a funeral home employee said, according to the victim’s mother. Your daughter is still breathing. Dave Fornell, deputy Commissioner of the Detroit Fire Department, said the woman’s heart rate was 80 after the discovery. I’m devastated that my daughter is going through what she’s going through, her mother said. My family, her twin brother, her older brother.
I don’t have words. The woman added that she wants to know who is responsible for wrongly declaring her daughter dead. Somebody pronounced my child dead and she’s not dead, she said. The unidentified woman was transferred to a hospital, where her recovery remains uncertain.
Although it may seem like some people come back to life after dying, someone with Lazarus Syndrome experiences their circulation returning spontaneously after their heart stops beating the syndrome is very rare and only happens after CPR is performed.
Death is not reversible, ever. There are people who come very close who are resuscitated within the few minutes before death has settled the issue. That’s not death, it’s life rescued during that four or five minutes before the final store of oxygen is used up. Some people do survive Sudden cardiac arrest and are physically alive but have suffered irreversible brain damage Due to the brief length of time of low oxygen levels. Their heart is working OK.
They can be supported on a respirator and then they’re alive the comatose until death at a future point. The notion of death and coming back to life Is kind of a simple fantasy. Death is never reversible, bringing a dead person back to life.
Interesting thing here is we all wonder if we can bring a dead person back to life. But no one thinks about the very much alive people who we let die in our memories and never think about them again.